Three "B's" for Funeral Message

I. Be Brief

Grieving families are exhausted by the stress. They don’t need to sit through a long, drawn-out service, nor will they appreciate too much attention being given to the one who officiates. Remember, they won’t remember any of what you say unless it is memorable. The total time invested should be less than a half hour.

II. Be Biblical

God’s Word is a balm to the wounded spirit and people need to hear His Word (Rom. 10:17). All of the positive themes of Scripture such as hope, love, compassion, etc., can be emphasized, but it is a poor preacher who leaves no room for the really Good News.

III. Be Biographical

Be an investigative reporter before the service. Dig up all the worthy material on the deceased you can provide room for, and make room if you have to. A funeral service which misses this personal touch is, in a word, impersonal.

..and a fourth "B" from John Gillmartin, who forwarded these guidelines:

IV. Be Sensitive

Don’t be so tied to your notes that you allow no room for surprises or for extemporaneous opportunities. Relatives and friends of the deceased or the family have been known to make their own particular, sometimes peculiar, contributions to the service–so be on your toes. You can also carry solemnity too far ... way, way too far.